It was my final straw when he decided it was OKAY to cancel a trip that we planned for over a month so he can see J after 2 months of not seeing him. The last time J saw him was Sept 10, 2021. Why didnt he? Because his wife wanted to go to Vegas and his mom suggested it. He didnt want to “stirred the pot” so he just cancelled. He didnt think it was not ok with me that he’s not there for J. He didnt think it was not ok to continued to keep hurting me and J. It was bad enough that he only called from the hours of 7 AM (where J not awake yet) or 12 PM (when J at school). so no, he doesnt make sure that he sees J everyday. That’s the one bare minimum I asked from him. He doesnt call any other time because his wife will be around and he didnt want to “stirred the pot” He didnt think after everything me and J did for him during COVID including
- being ok with him not being around
- barely able to afford food and live in low income housing
- helping him make $5.5m in sales.
- working 14-18 hours days,
- agreeing with him and push him to moved to Dorado, PR with his wife and family to save taxes and advance in his career.
No, I wasnt ok with him not seeing J for 2 months. He didnt think to take my words into account that I needed to see him. I was PREGNANT at the time with him. I wanted to tell him in person. I’m tired of only being able to tell him something over the phone or text messages. He PROMISED me after he get his house in Dorado, PR he will make sure to see J every 2 weeks, he will call J everyday and figure things out for US. He got his house in July 2021. He saw J probably 3 times since then. His excuses was he doesnt have time. He doesnt even amke sure to call when J is free. J go to school at 8 AM – 4PM. He CHOOSE not make time around J’s schedule because that would stirred the pot.
Since he moved to Dorado, PR
- He hosted his parent’s friends for 2 weeks. Probably spend around 5 figures for food and lodging for all of them
- He threw a tailgating party in Pittsburgh, PA to show off with his investor and other people that doubt him that he wouldnt make it.
- He make sure that his kids is provided for and they have 2 parents around. Nothing is wrong with that, but he should also fulfilled his role as a dad to J instead of making empty promises or be honest with his intentions.
He told me like he have been the last 3 yrs, “He’ll try to figure it out.” What I do know it and he shown me, he doesnt like hard conversation. He doesnt like disruption in his life. He CHOOSE not to have a conversation with his wife that he have a son that he want to see. He doesnt want her to question him. He doesnt want to have responsibilities or obligations to J. He doesnt want to lose face. He would fine any reason of “why not” we cant do certain things like J being able to call him any giving time or being there when we need him to be there. I dont even call him when it’s emergency. In his twisted head, I can handle it on my own and take care of things on my own. He have to be there to be “THE MAN” for everyone – The good son, the perfect husband, the great dad, the ATM machine, the great investor. He can be many things for different people. At this point after 2.5 yrs of J being born, he’s nothing but a DEADBEAT DAD.
